What happened to playing at the park or simply sitting and watching your kiddos run through a sprinkler without seeing what’s happening in the rest of the world? Facebook, email, texting… These are just some of the things that get in the way of being present with our children. Is it really that important everyone has you at their fingertips when your children are with you in the present moment? Is that facebook post more important than your kiddos ride down a slide?

I invite you to the “1986 Phone Challenge” Let’s pretend for one day that your phone is connected to a wall in your kitchen and that you are unavailable to the world for ONE whole day, unless you are physically in your home. Go to the park and play pirates, swim like a dolphin in the kiddie pool, and show your kids that they are more important than the rest of the world! Be present and you will be surprised how clear your mind can be and how much this one day will create a day with less misbehavior because you are enjoying each moment with your children!

Connect your phone to an outlet for one whole day on Tuesday August 5th! Invite your mommy friends back to the 80′s when the world could not invade our playtime

“Are you enjoying your new friends in your class?”

“Yes everyone but Rosa.” He says

“Why not Rosa?”

“Because she farts on me and I don’t like it.”

I almost choke but manage to say, “If you don’t like it tell her to stop.”

“I can’t cause she doesn’t know what I am saying.”

Okay its time to learn a little Spanish,

“No me gusta.” 

“Do you think that maybe she wants your attention to make friends with you?”

“No she doesn’t even know my name.”

Alright Spanish lesson #2

 “ Me llamo Adison.”

Your toddler needs you to help calm him down….even when he is in trouble? Pick them up and help calm them even when they are in trouble. Your heart beat and active breathing calms his inner state. So remember you are not telling him the behavior is acceptable, you are helping him calm down so you can teach him your expectations when he is in his learning state (calm).

Two decades of research tell us that self-regulation is a better predictor of academic success than IQ scores or entry-level reading and math skills.

The way parents treat each other is even more powerful for a child’s development of self-regulation than the way parents treat the child.

Without self-regulation, empathy cannot develop. Without empathy bullying, divorce and crime skyrocket.

Now you know! The question is…
What do you want to do about it?

Be part of the solution. Purchase your copy of Managing Emotional Mayhem, today. Work the program. Self-regulation is just five steps away!

As always, we wish you well!

1. Trier – Child patiently persists
2. Crier – Child gets frustrated and cries or whines for help
3. Flyer – Child “flies off the handle” with rage
4. Sigher – Child shrugs shoulders, sighs and moves to another activity

Do you have a Trier, a Crier, a Flyer or Sigher?

Are you sensitive to the individual needs of your child?

Are you aware of your child as an individual?

Do you respect your child’s personality, even a Crier or Flyer?

Just some food for thought!